by Dr. Sue Ann T. Guy
Definition, Occurrence and Symptoms: Bullying is defined as an act seeking to harm, intimidate, coerce or overpower someone perceived as vulnerable, weak or subordinate; to persecute, oppress, tyrannize. Deliberate misuse of power in relationships through repeated verbal, physical or social behavior that intends to cause physical, social or psychological harm. Bullies seek social power, desire to be esteemed highly by others or desire to be seen as powerful.
Bullying occurs in-person, in public, in groups, online (cyberbullying), in families, in marriages, in workplaces, in neighborhoods. Types of bullying include fighting or assault, name-calling, cursing, mockery or laughing at others, mobbing, trolling, cyberstalking, stealing and murder. Effects of bullying on victims are short-term and long-term including: depression, anxiety, stress, defamation, embarrassment, isolation and seclusion, projection, aggression, negative thinking, low self-esteem, fear, lower emotional intelligence, loss of appetite, body aches, loneliness, illness and suicide. The opposite of bullying is cooperation, compassion, appreciation, reverence, kindness.
Coping Strategies: Coping strategies for dealing with bullies include confronting them head-on with others, do not ignore bullying, clarify offenses from bullying, set limits of tolerance, gather bystander or witness support, retain substantial in-person and online social support systems, document or record offensive bullying behaviors, report bullying activities to authorities (local, State and Federal as necessary). Do not retaliate against a bully. Always ensure safe environments for self and bystanders, positive thinking and reinforcement, and change your environment. Foster and communicate an environment of cooperation, compassion, appreciation, reverence and kindness, and most all, seek regular therapy or support group.
